So as I am starting to wean Jojo I’m realizing how much I am gonna miss our nursing time. I wanted to write about it.
When I found I was pregnant, I did tons of research on the things I would need for Jojo. I did research on how painful childbirth was and the pros and cons of a un-medicated birth. Plus a ton of other things! I never really researched anything about breastfeeding. I knew very little, I knew it’s what my mom did for me and my siblings, and that it’s natural and should be easy.
Not everything about breastfeeding is easy….
After Jojo was born, my midwife gave me a breastfeeding lesson, and Jojo seemed to latch right on very easily, on the right side. I didn’t switch sides until we got home. That’s when I realized we were having trouble. He wasn’t latching right which led to lot of pain on the left side. I couldn’t figure out how to fix it. So for the first few days I strictly fed him on the right and pumped on the left. After a visit to his pediatrician I thought I would sign up for an appointment with a lactation specialist.
I never made it to that appointment, but me and Jojo eventually figured out how to get a better latch, It somehow just worked out! That being said, I had tons of clogged ducts, and I remember trying to pump and have Jojo nurse. Luckily enough I always got them unclogged, and never got mastitis. I did get them so often I ended up trying a vitamin, I’m not sure that helped or just over time I stopped getting them as much
Another problem for me was just breastfeeding in public! I was nervous about this idea from the moment I had Jojo. See I’m not that woman who can just pull up her shirt and gracefully place her child on breast, with no one even noticing a nipple, or even caring if they did! I will say this – I am super amazed at moms who do this! I’m just too shy for it, so I definitely had to buy a cover for myself. Being that I’m so stylish I got those new covers, that also work as a scarf (yeah great idea, except I live in Florida, where its hot, except for 2 weeks in the winter) So yes, I was that mom walking around in August with a scarf around my neck in Florida, it has to look better than the people who wear Ugg boots here! I was always ready to bust it out any moment Jojo needed it. With that being said, Jojo was easy to cover in the first few months, but things got much harder as he got older. So I had to find some other ways to nurse while I was out and of course for myself be discrete about it. So here are a few places I found to nurse:
- Fitting rooms, at stores, even if you are not trying on clothes, I just ask the person at the fitting room if I can go in to nurse, I’ve never had a problem.
- The car, My car is tinted so I always would get in the backseat(most room)
- The mall and baby stores at least where we live are starting to add nursing rooms, so you can go in and they have rocking chairs and you can nurse.(even Disney World has this)
- In a baby carrier, this took some time for me to figure it out, I recommend testing it out before you go!
Another tiny issue we had, was biting. Yes! He totally had to try and bite the nipple that feeds! Thankfully I would quickly un-latch him(while screaming in my head) and set him on the floor and tell him we don’t bite. It took only a few more bites and me doing this that he finally learned.(So thankful!)
When I first started breastfeeding, I just assumed that I would stop nursing Jojo once he turned one. Well That didn’t work out, as Jojo was getting older and eating more and more solids, we tried to introduce him to cows milk. which is what I thought I was suppose to do. Well this child wanted nothing to do with Milk (I don’t blame him, I hate milk), he only drinks water and breast milk! So after talking to my pediatrician, he said kids don’t even need cows milk as long as they are getting enough nutrients from other foods. Hearing this was such a relief to me, Although I should have known better, I’m still trying to figure out how we are okay with drinking cows milk, but people shame women who breastfeed longer then the “norm”.
The fact is we are the only mammals who give our children another mammals milk. Sounds pretty gross if you ask me! With that being said, I still thought by 15 months I would have Jojo weaned but here we are now at almost 21 months and we are down to the dreaded night time feed. We are slowly going to start weaning him from this too, but I want to do this slowly, weaning a child before they’re ready can also lead to trust issues. While I definitely think Jojo is ready I honestly don’t think I’m producing much if any milk these days, I’m more like his pacifier at night.
I’m not sure who will miss our nursing sessions more, me or Jojo. It truly has been a magical journey, one I didn’t expect to have. While we obviously have had a few bumps, it was worth it. The bond it has created between us is amazing! I’m gonna miss him looking up at me and smiling and giggling from time to time. It’s always the little things that I will miss the most!